For some weeks now, I’ve had a small group practice meeting one-on-one and affirming the good qualities they see in each other.
In Asia, this is counter-culture. In most Chinese families, children are seldom praised. The only exception is when a child gets no less than an A grade or is admitted into a well-known university — think Ivy League or Oxbridge. The metric for worthiness is performance, usually to do with academics, not quality of character.
So, meeting regularly with a group that desires to find their positive attributes and articulating them to each other is rather unusual. The result has been much self-discovery as each person realises that traits they take for granted are unique, and a blessing to the community.
I can’t reverse thousands of years of Chinese tradition through these exercises, but seeing people light up as their good qualities are blessed, is a reward in itself. And second, having them internalise these truths in their quiet time have resulted in greater self-confidence and so, a greater ability to tackle the challenges that life throws at them.
We’re still a work in progress, but I hope that affirming one another will be a lifestyle. When we are blessed, we are empowered to bless others.
I am really grateful to Rebekah Scott for her course in Unveiling Beauty, that started the ball rolling for me.
If you’re interested, go to https://sapphiretrainingcenter.com/ to check when it’s next being offered.
(This is a re-post as I’d accidentally deleted it)